The moon rises
above an arched gate.
he reads poems
in front of stiff-tall bamboo
near the unfinished garden shed.
we sit in dining chairs
aligned with the patio bricks.
open-mouth-smiles perfume the air
with beer and burgundy.
squirrels rush the branches—
applaud too soon.
A vine past its bloom
crawls on a trellis,
the root appears dead
yet the live ends
are laden with leaf.
-by Shannon P. Laws
Many Old Men Surround Me
They follow me at poetry groups
show up at open mics
Behind me on the sidewalk
they hobble quick to catch up
Old men sit in the booth
one over, listen to me talk
politely nod “Good bye”
when I leave the restaurant
Gray haired drivers slow
me down in the 40 mile per hour zones
force me to pass them
stare disapproval as I blur home
Never had a grandpa,
Now life surrounds me with them
Butterscotch candies in their sweater pockets
Smiles flash multicolored teeth
Hands, soft, rubbed shinny smooth
spotted with liver marks wave hello
Perhaps these men
never had a daughter
This morning I am thinking about a friend I use to know, when I lived in a different town. I’ll call her “N”. N has brain damage caused by an accident and a stroke. I do not know how or when she got it; I never asked. N has a speech tick, which means she communicates using only three, very limited sentences: “Oh well”, “Oh, I don’t know about that”, and “Yes”. She only shakes her head for “No”.
She smiles constantly. It’s rare to see her frown or upset, because little upsets her. N’s smile, crooked as it is, is horribly contagious. She uses it to every advantage, often for non-verbal communication, such as *smile* Yes, I want that book, or *smile* More water please.
“Oh well” is her favorite phrase to use. If we were playing a game and she didn’t win, Oh well. If her drink spills over, Oh well. She says the phrase in the exact tone, with open arms, EVERY TIME. N and I met up about once a week for over a year. In a “normal” relationship we would have known too much about each other by then, instead we built up a “getting use to each other” bond.
I grew to like N. I would come over and play BINGO, and read to her. There was something more behind those eyes that made me curious. I just didn’t feel like it my place to ask too many personal questions about her, so I didn’t. However, the artifacts in her room gave a few hints of her life before the brain damage. For example, on the middle of the wall, in clear view, space is committed to her full-nude self portrait, tastefully done in an abstract watercolor. Judging by the style and frame it looked like it was from the late 1970’s. She appears as a strong, confident woman, proud of her body. Was N a feminist?
Many photos of her family, her children and grandchildren rest among books on the shelves, books about art, other languages, foreign countries, murder mysteries. The frayed edges on the paperbacks suggest she’s read them all. Sadly, the stroke took away her ability to read. She holds her books, quietly in her lap; she loves to hold them, open to a page just right of middle.
One month I was depressed. After realizing my 20 year marriage was over, I walked around in a zombie state, adjusting to the thought of it. Everything was foggy. I analyzed and over analyzed everything.
It was fall, the season that readies us for winter. I continued to see N. Her big smile lit up my day. Her unending, seemingly, optimistic attitude encouraged me. However, I did not believe she was capable of recognizing my mood, the slight change in my behavior, until one day.
An afternoon in October, I wheeled her back to her bedroom after a BINGO game. She smiled at me to open her curtains. N has a wonderful garden view. When I pushed back the curtains I was shocked to see the whole yard was covered in large, orange maple leafs!
“Wow!” I proclaimed from the window, “N, look at your yard! All the leaves have fallen down!”
The majestic maple, older than the building we stood in, was barren of foliage. Black branch tips wiggled like horse whips in the wind. The once lush and lively view of iris stocks, azaleas, rhododendrons and lawn was gone, buried beneath the tree’s litter, cancelling out any hint of green.
She looked out. Then at me. Then out again. Our eyes met.
With comical timing she opened her arms―“Oh well.”
We laughed together. Her comment touched a tender spot in my heart, tears came down my face.
Tears came down N’s smiling face.
She was crying with me.
And I was thankful.
2013 marks the fifth anniversary of my blog “Madrona Grove”. In a moment of reflection I found much to be thankful for, and did not need to look far to find faces of many good friends who have blessed my personal timeline. Life is a journey, always better with company. So to follow a MG tradition I’m posting my Ham blog. Posted every holiday for about four years now, this little TRUE story shows up bringing with it a reminder of how important tradition is, but that knowing WHY we do what we do is just as important as the performance.
The boys, oh, I mean the SPLaws office staff, and I are working on our Christmas video card that will post here soon. Please keep an eye out for it. Until then keep warm, be happy… and leave the ends ON! ~SPL
OK, true story:
One holiday four generations of family are all gathered together in the youngest daughter’s new home for a rare time together. This is her first time hosting a family dinner. Her mom is helping her with the ham.
The daughter plops the large ham into its pan and asks the mom, “OK what do we do next?”
“Well,” answered the mom, “first thing we need to do is cut off the ends of the ham, just the sides about 2 inches worth.”
“Why?”, asks the daughter.
“I don’t know, but my mom always did it, and her ham’s turn out great every time.”
They call the girls grandma in, “Grandma, why do you cut the ends of the ham before cooking?”
“Gosh, I don’t know why. Never thought of it. MY mother always cut the ends off, so that’s how I’ve always done it. How funny.”
The three ladies quickly walk out to the living room to find the girl’s great-grandmother sitting and talking with family.
“G.G. I have a question for you. Why do you cut the ends of the ham off?”
“Well, I don’t know why YOU cut the ends of the ham off, but I had to cut the ends off or it wouldn’t fit into my oven!”
For the past two months or so I have been doing what I can to support a friend whose husband is very ill. I’m not too good in these situations, but I am pretty skilled at just sitting there and providing company. Went to visit them both at the hospital the other week. It was a long day.
At lunch my friend and I went to the hospital cafeteria, then took a walk through the gardens located in an open air space in the center of the hospital. This slender green “room” with a koi pond, mature trees and benches for meditation, surrounded by four stories of hospital windows was more comfortable than a waiting room.
The two of us sat and talked; well I should say she talked and I sat. While she spoke I looked at the sky, I watched the tree branches, new with spring leaves, blow in the wind, I stared at my feet…
After an hour of sitting in this lush rectangular room, I noticed a ladybug walking across the cement path. The cement had squared grid of groves, at the appropriate places, formed when it was first poured. Straight lines, that in my mind, would make a quicker path for the bug to get to the safe haven of hedges that lined each side.
The ladybug just walked, randomly, as if lost. Wobble. Wobble. Meandering about as best those little legs could maneuver. It was relaxing to watch.
“What am I going to do?” said my friend, “I am so worried, and stressed, haven’t slept in two days.”
Wobble. Wobble.
We both sat in silence, watching the ladybug negotiate the crossing of a straight line ravine, missing the turn towards a quicker route along the canyon wall. Somehow it seemed to talk to me. I know my friend was also watching it. What was it saying?
Perhaps, something like “Its the journey in life that is valuable, not speed” or the opposite, “Simplify your life by taking the proven straight paths, so you don’t get lost like -a ladybug on a sidewalk.”
How simple life’s journey seems when viewed from above.
Before we left I picked up the ladybug with a twig and placed it onto the hedge. Why didn’t the bug fly here?
This was just one of those days, one of those moments I couldn’t shake. The image of that afternoon has stayed with me.
Assumptions? I made many. I assumed the ladybug was lost, unable to fly, lonely, hungry looking for food, a friend or a mate.
Well, maybe, just maybe, the ladybug was out for a walk…
Table Lamp
Lamp with beads
around the edge,
decorations designed
to reflect light,
accent the bulbs
efforts.
heavy brass base
keeps the stand from
falling. fabric leaks
out just enough
rays to comfort the
room.
warm glow bounces
off your cheek as
we talk. steam from
a tea cup mists the
vision.
This is a gentle memory
