Flexing Haircut 100

So, yesterday I caught myself flexing on the lady givin’ me a $25 haircut.  Afterward, I walked out of the place and while driving home, examined a strange, yet familiar, feeling like something was wrong…(I’m a bit slow about these things)  Then it hit me “OMG I was totally rude to the lady who cut my hair!”

“WHY?”  I screamed to the mountains!
“WHY?”  I yelled to the sea!

The selfie I sent my friend when she asked to see my hair cut, “–nah, its OK..”

During this serious shitstorm of a time in history WHY would I flex during a standard life interaction with another human?  Here is what happen…  We started to share how the lockdown had effect us and compared notes.  I basically bragged about how fortunate I was that BOTH my jobs were essential and how incredibly busy I’ve been.  Then I handed the talking stick to her and she blew my mind.  She is in her early 30s, newly married.  Found out she was pregnant in March. Lost her job in March.  She filed for unemployment.  Received about two months’ worth when it stopped with no notice.  She called in an inquiry, the state said she did not qualify for unemployment and would have to pay all of it back.  She protested their decision. This resulted in her having to defend herself in court.  She won. Now the judge has ordered that the unpaid 6 weeks of unemployment be sent to her asap, which hopefully will arrive by mid-July.

“I’m all stressed out with the baby, my job, stupid unemployment being all messed up, and this virus thing. It’s horrible.”

Now, hourly pay at Supercuts Hair Salon ranges from an average of $8.10 to $13.36 an hour.  Let’s say she worked 28 hours a week because those cheap-ass companies don’t want to pay their workers health care so they keep them under 36 hours.  …and let’s guess she is making about $11.00 an hour, that’s $1848 gross, with 10% taken out for taxes that’s a check for $1664.  That is some hard-earned cash!  (BTW, this is the third time a person has shared a similar story with me about their unemployment payments being denied.  WTH Washington?) The only saving grace for the haircutter was that her husband’s job is considered essential and he has worked through the whole lockdown, keeping them barely housed and fed.

So here I was getting my haircut for the first time since November 2019, waltzing into Supercuts thinking I am a boss. Sons of the bitch!  This was rude.  I didn’t even think about how rude until my drive home.  Perhaps an evil side of my sub-conscious drove that whole event.  Perhaps I was forgetting when I was a new mom and we couldn’t freakin’ afford a gallon of milk!  I couldn’t buy new clothes for my kids.  We couldn’t even afford for me to go to work, in town–because we only had one car–and due to the cost of daycare!   I’ve been there.  Really I have.  Also, I’ve stood in the company with affluent upper-middle-class people who assume everyone in the room is like them. Going on and on about vacations, new cars, private yoga sessions, and seeing their doctor, one flex after the other.  Felt their words grind up against my reality.

Yes, I do feel like I’ll need a vacation after lockdown.  I’ll be honest.  But I must always use my words carefully.  I can’t control what others do, but I can control what the heck comes out of my mouth! Each home is having a different experience during this difficult time.  Please learn from my mess up.
Be kind to each other.

Day 35: Whats Bad for the Hive, is Bad for the Bee

Shower Thoughts: An “unlimited minutes per month” phone plan really only gives you 44,640 minutes per month at best.

What are some changes to your daily routine since lockdown?  Are there additions to your diet?  Perhaps you stopped doing something or perhaps started buying some new items?
I am eating more immune-building foods.  Adding fermented and spicy foods to my diets, such as drinking Kombucha and adding chili peppers, garlic or hot sauce to dishes (but not my oatmeal).  Also, I stopped shaving my legs.  Yep.  I went right from no-shave winter into no-shave lockdown.  If I shaved right now I could donate my hair to a wig charity.  No lie.  Werewolf time = freedom.

Before the lockdown, way back in October last year, I joined a monthly Stoic discussion group.  The group is hosted by a gentleman who applies stoicism to his daily life to help process his epilepsy.  Absolutely stimulating and thought-provoking discussions!  I really enjoy learning about the ways to apply stoicism to my everyday.  So, to help keep my mind focused on this new way of thinking, I signed up for a newsletter dailystoic.comThe message this morning jumped off the page!  The author is responding to Christians in the bible belt continuing to attend church because “the blood of Jesus will protect me.”  Allow me to share a portion of it with you:

A Stoic is rational enough to look at the numbers and realize that most of us are likely to survive the coronavirus, if we do in fact get it. Most cases are very mild. If you’re a healthy, relatively young person, chances are you’re going to be fine. Who knows, maybe believing in Jesus will insulate you further. But that’s not why we’re locked down, why we’ve inflicted trillions of dollars of losses to the global economy in an effort to “flatten the curve.” We’re doing these things to protect the most vulnerable amongst us—people for whom the mortality rate can be up to ten times higher. It’s to protect people with preexisting conditions, people battling cancer, people who are recovering from a lung transplant, people with only one kidney, and our elders from whom we would be remiss not to take this opportunity to learn from.

Remember what Marcus Aurelius said: What’s bad for the hive is bad for the bee. A society that is callous and indifferent to the weak and the vulnerable destroys itself. A society that betrays its elders—even if those elders have been indifferent and callous themselves—betrays itself. *

Here is my Monday mood in meme form.  It doesn’t have a pun, but does it REALY need one?  Thank you for visiting.  Stay safe! -Shannon

 


reference:

dailystoic.com for 4/27/2020.  Read the complete article here-

Daily Stoic

Poetry: Love Lock

I
I have a poem
I will not throw away
by accident
or on purpose:
The morning light
cuts through the trees
waking the birds
to their song
Leaves stretch
for the sun,
fish jump at
the dragonfly,
deer’s in the meadow
nuzzle at the grass
II
How far will you
go for love
Before you accept it
must you test it?
Before you cradle it
must you birth it?
Before you kiss it
must you grasp it?
Mind to mind
Arms in arms
Lips to lips
Love:
Agreement
Contentment
Accomplishment
Over mind
Over body
Over life
~